Hey, I kinda have a small beef with you.
I've noticed in a few of your answers (actually 2) that your say "parents are crap" or something similar to this. I highly doubt saying that will actually do any help. Granted, some parents are the worst people on Earth, but a lot of them are just trying all they can to be good parents and they just don't know how.
I can hardly remember my mother in my childhood memories. What I mean is that she's kind of a ghost when I remember things from the past. Going out with my family and whatnot, birthday parties or just memories from home. What I end up knowing a few years ago is that she was trying very hard to keep her anxiety in control and not let her three kids see that she was on the edge of breaking down. Whenever she wanted to burst out crying, she'd wait until the end of the day and lock herself in her room while we slept. She stayed with my father for our sake while he was turning her into a nervous and paranoid wreck. I could complain that she was never there for me, but I don't because I sorta knew what was going on. I was just too young to do or say anything. I could just keep quiet and see what he was doing to her even if they did their best to hide it from us. I can safely say my dad was a jerk and I still have problems opening up to him without wanting to yell at him that I knew what he really was. Even at 26, I can't seem to be able to call him out on this; I can just be angry at him.
Does that make them shit because they couldn't seem to realize they were harming us by hiding their fights? Probably, but no one is allowed to judge, and even less call them names. Things could have been done but weren't. They could have done this. They should have done that. Could. Should. Pointing fingers and calling names doesn't change anything, it makes them worse.
I know you're not a professional therapist and you're just helping out Goda by giving out your own opinions, but please be careful with what you say. It's unfortunate some parents can't seem to realize what they are doing to their kids, but not all of them do it on purpose. And besides, you only hear one side of the story.
I'm not yelling at you, I'm just... I just want you to think about it for a bit. :O |